Everyday we all hear about or read about divorcing couples fighting over who gets the kids. Fighting over their own children like they are some sort of property to be traded back and forth. There are many people that believe ALL mothers should always have custody with very little to no visitation for fathers; and likewise there are those out there that believe the opposite, ALL fathers should get custody and mothers should get little to no visitation.
Personally I don’t see how so many people can see this issue in such black and white terms. Not ALL mothers are good parents and not ALL fathers are good parents. For the most part the daily news will show us that most child abuse and child murders are committed by fathers, and yes, occasionally by mothers. This still doesn’t prove that ALL fathers are bad or good or that ALL mothers are bad or good.
In the last few years I have learned more about the Father’s Rights Movement, and I can say that I’m more than a little shocked at what I’ve learned. The Father’s Rights Advocates would have everyone believe that they are just concerned for fathers as a whole having shared or joint custody. They would have us believe that their number one concern is actually the children in divorces and custody cases. On the surface if one doesn’t dig too much that sounds wonderful.
However, when looked at further it is easily seen what the real agenda is for the Father’s Rights Movement. The further abuse and victimization of their ex-wives and children. Before I go any further here, I’d like to point out that I fully believe that good fathers have
sought out the assistance of the Father’s Rights Movement and one of two things happens… they either leave, frustrated and still alone in their plight OR they become enmeshed in the bitterness which abounds.
What I see out of Father’s Rights Advocates around the internet appears to be mostly just a bunch of men (and a few women that will do anything to get the attention or have a little power for themselves) who have been abusive in one way or another to the mother of their children and now feel that comfy rug of power and control being ripped from under their feet.
What better way to continue to abuse and control your victim when they walk away than to take possession of their children?
One main reason that I’ve formed the opinion that I have of the Father’s Rights Movement is because only abusers would look at the news we see of fathers murdering and abusing their kids and deny that it happens, or make excuses for it happening. The strict adherence to the ‘ALL fathers should have custody’ line that they feed everyone is the basis of my opinion that the majority of those in the movement are abusers grasping at keeping the power and control they had.
Here is an example, mind you… this is only one search, but there are many like this.
Search Engine Phrase
do wifes come back after losing custody?
Search Engine Name
Search Engine Host
18.104.22.168 [Label IP Address]
Why would someone look for this? Other than because they are contemplating attempting to gain custody through the Family Court just to get their ex-wife back under their power. This doesn’t sound like a man who loves his kids and wants the best for them, this sounds like a man who loves control and will use whatever means available to him to maintain or re-gain his power and control.
I never meant for this to be this long, so I will wrap this up by saying… not ALL men should have access to their children regardless of what the FR Advocates say. Likewise, I can admit that not ALL women that give birth are the best parent choice either. The natural equipment that we are born with which enables us to create life does NOT dictate how a person will be as a parent.
Since it is obvious that I have much more to say about this… there will be other posts on this subject.
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The “Father’s Right’s” Movement: How to Legally Stalk, Harass, and Intimidate Victims of Domestic Violence after a Restraining Order has been IssuedIn domestic law on July 1, 2011 at 4:23 am
The “Father’s Right’s” Movement: How to Legally Stalk, Harass,
and Intimidate Victims of Domestic Violence after a Restraining Order has been Issued
STALKING THROUGH THE COURTS
Many years ago, I encountered what
appeared at the time to be a group of reputable men
The second wife, new girlfriend, or
female sympathizer of the Father’s Rights movement is a queen amongst a
retinue of attentive servants.
It was these early, positive experiences
with the Father’s Right’s movement which colored all of my experiences
Background of the Father’s Rights Movement
The groups which call themselves “Father’s
Right’s” groups are not members of the legitimate men’s movement.
Quest for Dominance and Control
The “Father’s Right’s” Movement: How to Legally Stalk, Harass,and Intimidate Victims of Domestic Violence after a Restraining Order has been Issued
STALKING THROUGH THE COURTS by Janet Normalvanbreucher
Table of Contents:
– Father’s Manifesto Signatories
– if Psychologists Discredit this Theory, Why Is it So Widely Accepted by the Courts?
– Screening of Pro-Se Lawsuits, Criminal Charges, Motions for Reconsideration
– Criminal Sanctions for Filing Frivolous Charges with State Administrative Agencies
– Tighter Enforcement of Stalking Laws
– Rule 11-type Pro-Se Sanctions for Abuse of Process
– Prosecuting Groups who are Practicing Law Without A License
– Law School Programs – Helping the Victims Fight Back
– Lawsuits against FR Groups under the VAWA as Unincorporated Associations.
– Legislative Action
I had been alerted to this website, and I find myself feeling sick (again). It is these corrupt tactics that ensure children are taken from their mothers. I see these tactics used and talked about all the time….they are implied by father’s rights lawyers in their advertising. Mothers need to know what they are up against if their abuser wants the children. Because one of the main reasons besides wanting to punish and control his victim (you), getting out of paying child support and possibly getting it from his victim is at the top of his list.
Personally I think that if the child support issue was tossed out or dealt with more fairly for everyone’s sake, fathers would probably be in favor of letting children continue being with their primary caregiver instead of ripping them away. But there are always the abusers out there that nothing else matters except hurting their victim.
This is from a real father’s rights site and repost on the appropriately named blog World O’ Crap:
Source: The REAL AGENDA of the Father’s Rights Movement
So you have a child with a soon-to-be ex-girlfriend or ex-wife, and you are wondering what is going to happen to your children. The first thing you need to be aware of is this: The laws and family court system are not set up fairly towards fathers. The laws are set up to award custody to the parent who has had the most involvement so far raising the child, which means the parent who has worked the least – this is virtually always the mother. This usually guarantees that the mother will receive custody of the child, and since child support is mandatory, that you will be paying several hundred dollars in child support to her each month. Now does this make sense?
Hell no! Why should the parent who has had the most involvement in raising the child get custody of the child? But even more importantly, why should the other parent have to pay to support that child after splitting with its mother? (As the author says later, “A fairer system would be to eliminate child support and have the parent who is fortunate enough to be awarded custody have full responsibility for providing for the children when they are with that parent.” And if we had that fairer system, you could let your bitch of an ex have custody of the damned rugrats. But since we have our current unfair system, your only recourse is to get custody of the kids so that you can save some bucks. Um, and do what’s best for your precious offspring. Yeah, that’s the ticket!