HELL HAS A SPECIAL PLACE FOR ALL ABUSERS and ENABLERS (aka child traffickers) that have and are continuing the abuse by Hal Richardson. With the help of the local CourtWhores, M. Jill Dykes, Rene M. Netherton, Judge David Debenham, Don and Jason Hoffman
Eleven years ago today Rikki Dombrowski was taken from her mother Claudine Dombrowski and given to a convicted batterer on a ‘snail mail’ from crooked Judge Richard Anderson. He made a ‘deal’ and without motion from either party, without hearing he simply on his own ‘switched custody’ from Mother to ABUSER HAL RICHARDSON.
Mother Claudine Dombrowski has had little to no contact with her daughter since this illegal ‘action’ and ruling was made. The Judges following after this decision could have at anytime corrected a very wrong very unethical very damaging ruling.
Instead, they continued ‘litigation abuse’ of a battered mother and forced her only child- HER daughter to live with out her mother and in constant fear.
2000 July 31– Custody Switch-Judge Richard Anderson Gives FULL custody to CRIMINAL HAL RICHARDSON http://d1.scribdassets.com/ScribdViewer.swf?document_id=43805172&access_key=key-18j7hcjx5kgmiopq3ylk&page=1&viewMode=list
WHAT KIND A EVIL BASTARD WOULD HURT HIS CHILD SO BADLY BY TAKING HER MOTHER AWAY FROM HER? RIKKI DOMBROWSKI THE WORLD IS APPALLED, KANSAS IS SICK. THIS MAN WILL KNOW JUSTICE ONE DAY—GOD WILL JUDGE ALL WHO HELPED TO KEEP YOU SEPERATED FROM YOUR LOVING MOTHER.
GOD’S JUDGEMENT DAY—AND TOPEKA KANSAS WILL BURN
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Recall she was due in Court on Monday for custody of her 9 month old daughter. He fixed it alright– like so many DADDY’s do- Just kill mom.
The Harris County Sheriff’s Office said 31-year-old James David Clarke was charged with murder in the case of 20-year-old Amber Chantel Elkins, who was last seen July 24.
Investigators said Elkins was the victim of foul play and has not been located.
Detectives said Elkins’ vehicle, a dark green 2004 Chevrolet Trailblazer with Georgia license plates, was found abandoned in a vacant business parking lot in the 13900 block of Homestead Road, just north of Greens Bayou, about 2:45 p.m. Tuesday.
The front passenger window was broken out and a substantial amount of blood was found inside the vehicle, investigators said.
Elkins’ mother, Shani Kilpatrick, said her daughter would never go a day without letting someone know where she was. Kilpatrick said her phone rang at 3:30 a.m. Sunday, but she missed the call because she was sleeping. When she woke up later that morning, she realized it was her daughter, so she called her back.
“I called her back and a guy answered. I asked where Amber was, and he hung up,” said Kilpatrick. “She would only call me at 3:30 in the morning if something was wrong. That’s why I know something was wrong.”
Kilpatrick also said Elkins was due in court on Monday for a custody hearing regarding her 9-month-old daughter, who is staying with relatives.
“I don’t think it looks good,” Kilpatrick said. “I’m trying to keep the faith. I don’t want to say that she’s gone. I just know that she can’t call me.”
Frank Ferrata is the father of Elkins’ daughter, Ava. He said it’s heartbreaking because the baby is too young to understand what’s going on.
“Ava says ‘Mama’ all the time, and it breaks my heart,” he said.
Ferrata said he and Elkins were living in Midway, Texas, together, but recently she moved back to the Houston area. He called her a kind, loving person and said they just want to know what happened to her.
Elkins’ father, Mike Elkins, flew in Friday night from Atlanta. He said he felt helpless being so far away and wanted to come to Texas to help search for his daughter. But he admitted the evidence doesn’t look good, and now the family is fearing the worst.
“I feel in my heart that my daughter’s gone. I’ve accepted that. I just want to find her,” said Mike Elkins. “My daughter had a heart of gold. She would do anything for anybody.”
About 70 volunteers scoured more than 150 acres looking for signs of Amber Elkins.
“We’re not going to sugarcoat anything. This looks bad,” Texas EquuSearch Founder Tim Miller said. “We’re going to hold on to that tiny miracle, but the reality is we’ve got a big problem here. We got a 20-year-old that’s got to be found.”
Amber Elkins is white, 5 feet 8 inches to 5 feet 9 inches tall with black hair and brown eyes. She has two stars tattooed on her wrist and the word “ACE” tattooed on an ankle.
Anyone with information regarding Amber Elkins’ disappearance is asked to call the HCSO Homicide Unit at 713-967-5810, or Crime Stoppers at 713-222-TIPS.
Clark is being held at the Harris County jail.
Previous Stories:
- July 28, 2011: Foul Play Suspected In Woman’s Disappearance
Under the guise of “gender equality,” a well-funded father’s rights movement has declared war on US laws mandating child support and placing a child’s best interests ahead of a father’s “entitlements” in custody decisions. Caught in the crossfire are thousands of women and children who are horrified to discover that too often, Family Court has become just one more lethal weapon in the arsenal of this army of “father’s rights” deadbeats, bullies and abusers.
much deeper. He prevented me from obtaining what I needed to work, and
reaped the benefits of the psychological despair that reality brings with
it.
I. Prologue
For two years, my two darling daughters
and I have been brutally and repeatedly beaten, raped, robbed and left
for dead — psychologically, emotionally and financially — by the man
who used to call himself the husband and father in this family.Affable, intelligent, articulate, a successful
businessman, this vilest of abusers was never a family man, but he certainly
well-maintained the fiction of a perfect, public gentleman. He enjoyed,
and enjoys, the pleasant aspect of the public eye, a smiling hail-fellow-well-met,
friend of the well-connected, in a small Midwestern town where such niceties
matterÂ? perhaps too much, as we’ll see as this story unfolds.No one is more surprised today than I
am, that my children and I survived, thus far, what can only be described
as a brutal gang assault from thugs in suits — smiling, scented men and
women, without soul or substance, masquerading as small-town community
leaders, philanthropists and businessmen.The blueprints for the man’s relentless,
insidious, assaults — those we’ve endured, as well as those he promises
still await us — come straight from the international, fledgling, but
vicious and well-organized, euphemistically-titled “father’s rights”
(FR) movement.As I’ve discovered, FR militants comprise
a movement completely and irrevocably corrupted by money, and by the power
its advocates believe money gives them. It’s an abomination that they so
deliberately invoke the word “father” to gain validity for their
purely selfish agenda.A cruel, stunning ambush — devised to
play out when I was at my weakest and most vulnerable point — that was
my introduction to the glib liars and cold, compassionless cowards in the
FR movement. My girls and I have not yet escaped the poisoned litigational
swampland this movement, this man and his henchmen have created, but we
are, I believe, well on our way to healing.Admittedly, our case — an extreme case
of massive business fraud peddled for the public record as “divorce
and custody”– is not typical. Professionals in both family and business
law assure me — as they shake their heads in disgust and disbelief —
that the unique confluence of circumstance, opportunity and personality
characterizing my situation is unlikely to be replicated.But in researching my defense against
these hollow-hearted monsters, I’ve encountered hundreds of women whose
stories could be mine. I’m not alone, not by a long shot. Most disturbing
is the number of women with whom I’ve communicated who are so demoralized
and impoverished by the process of “divorce and custody, FR-style,”
that they are on the verge of giving up.To these women and mothers I say: Losing
is not an option. You must survive, somehow, any way you can, to fight
another day. Perhaps I can help you with this series and its informational
links.This year, thousands of men — hand-in-hand
with their children — will march in Nazi-like precision on Courthouses
in more than 100 cities, demanding “gender equality” and “family
preservation” as they seek legal sanction for their cowardly abuse
and domestic terrorism.For every one of those thousands of men,
there is a woman whose life is about to be sacrificed in the crosshairs
of the “father’s rights” assault weaponry.So I know I am not alone in the poisoned
“father’s rights” swampland. Many, many of the women I’ve encountered
have been ambushed, brutalized, defamed and trashed, and don’t have the
first clue what happened or how or why, or when it mercifully, might end.Nor are my children alone, in their children’s
Hell of paralysis, betrayal and uncertainty. There are thousands of children,
just like them, tiny trophies for the FR militants’ mantlepiece.We are not alone.
After an initial warming wave of comfort,
that fact horrifies me.And that is why this story must be told.
II. The Men Behind the Masks
Who ARE these masked men, these well-heeled
and highly motivated sloganeers who put their phony, sad-eyed faces toward
a sympathetic world, and their money toward sympathetic legislators, and
claim to be struggling against all odds for the ‘equal right’ to parent
their children?They are diverse in vocation, avocation,
shape, age and color? but they are usually well-educated, articulate and
well-off They are many and they are growing in size and strength. One thing
is certain: The predators in the FR militancy are nothing at all akin to
the smiling, loving “dads” they project on their websites and
in their newsletters.In fact, the stark contrasts are frightening,
once you’ve had the misfortune, as I have had, to unwittingly stumble into
this den of wily snakes.You may meet some of them yourselves this
year, in your own hometown, as they extend their reach, spider-like, into
county courthouses and state legislatures, seeking the overturn of virtually
every protection afforded women and children, especially, most diabolically,
women and children who are or have been victims of abuse.Consider just a few of the FR movement’s
real agenda — overturn the Violence Against Women Act of 2000 as unconstitutional?
end child support? eliminate battered women’s shelters ? end child support?
eliminate food stamps and AFDC? end child support? mandate policies of
rebuttable presumptive joint physical and joint legal custody in 50 states
in this country.Oh, yes, and did I mention: eliminate
child support and the laws that protect and enforce it.FR militants will drone endlessly on about
a non-issue they call Parental Alienation Syndrome and another they call
Malicious Mother Syndrome, and demand evaluation after evaluation, in hopes
of finding someone, anyone, to take their sick side, or failing that, of
running the spouse completely out of financial and emotional resources,
so that she can no longer do battle on a level footing.FR militants purport to “document”
— with special software they market to newcomers on their websites —
an endless number of incidents of parenting interference by the mother.
The documents or diaries are usually entirely bogus, the incidents described
quite often self-created, or built around a half-truth dropped carefully
into a new, sinister situation.But the FR operators assure their militant
members that the documents are magnificent “evidence” in a courtroom,
especially when the accused mother comes ill-prepared to defend herself
against a never-ending recitation of fantasies.FR militants and their minions will cite
multiple state and Federal court cases to the Judges, demanding that some
weird, extrapolated precedent be followed, and that this interfering mother
be stripped of her children for sabotaging the father’s relationship with
his child.A sabotaged relationship. That’s a key
and favorite phrase and accusation of FR men — and you can guess — it’s
absolutely necessary: How else can these physically absent, emotionally
crippled, unwelcoming, motivated-by-money ‘fathers’ reasonably explain
to the Court their children’s overwhelming preferences for mother, home,
stability and security in the lives they’ve always known?It is, of course, all the mom’s fault,
these glib and self-aggrandizing liars will claim, under oath, if needs
be. The child is brainwashed. The mother exerts undue influence. The mother
and child are ‘pathologically bonded’ and the mother is clearly doing ‘irreparable
harm’ to this child.FR militants, at an especially sick level
of cruelty, engage in what they call gas-lighting, and what we call crazy-making
? a modus operendi worthy of an entire article in its own right.These men insist that the sole remedy
for the alienation they’ve endured is immediate removal of the children
from their mother’s home. Custody, they say, must go to the poor, victim
father.Never mind, they say, that PAS has been
debunked repeatedly by the American Psychiatric Association and the American
Psychologists Association.Never mind that the father has been tagged
by professional forensic evaluators as physically absent, emotionally unavailable,
rigid, unwelcoming in his demeanor, unbonded with any of his children.Never mind that the father has been documented
as a physical, financial and emotional abuser and the children do not wish
to live with him.Never mind the father’s perjury and fraud.
He is, he says, entitled to 50% of his child and woe be to the mother or
judge or courtroom that denies him his ‘rights.’Consider just a few examples from the
“Father’s Rights Manifesto” — among their other stated goals
—“Convert battered women’s shelters
to battered spouse’s shelters, or eliminate them. These organizations have
become guerilla training centers in the war against fatherhood and must
be converted into facilities which assist in the elimination of fatherlessness
and the preservation of families.”“Eliminate child support, alimony,
and all other transfers of assets which encourage or support fatherlessness.
Collecting such court ordered awards costs 2 to 3 times as much as the
amount collected. Punitive measures recently enacted by government discourage
or prohibit productivity. The negative psychological impact of requiring
a father to subsidize the destruction of his own family is a powerful economic
demotivater.”“Replace tax incentives which favor
broken families or single parenthood with small but important “bonuses”
to encourage and reward intact families, thus changing the tacit role of
government from anti-family and anti-fatherhood to pro-family and pro-fatherhood.”You’ll rarely hear or see such a stunning
agenda voiced or envisaged in public by the smooth-talking operators of
the FR groups. They are many nasty things, but they are not often fools.III. The Uppity, Inconvenient Spouse
Seen Through the FR Looking GlassAllow me to remind readers that admittedly,
my husband’s attraction to the “father’s rights” movement was
occasioned not by his love or concern for his children, whom he barely
knew, but by his perverse need for money — not just his money, but my
money as well. More than $1 million in assets just vanished during the
pendancy of this litigation, and now my husband, like so many men on the
FR sites, is pleading personal and business poverty.We, of course, are all terminally stupid,
and he apparently, has the only fully functioning brain cells in the neighborhood.
Yes, I believe that he truly believes we do not know and will nopt reveal
— as I have known from the day I learned of his plan and am revealing
now — that this has been an extreme case of massive business fraud peddled
for two long years for the public record as “divorce and custody.”
And the FR movement afforded the perpetrator
ample weaponry with which to wage his war against his family and his fraud
against the Court, keeping the Court and myself wrapped up in an endless
series of FR-scented motions and demands. And during those 18 months (and
the eight months to a year of “planning ahead” he did) my husband
casually offloaded hundreds of thousands of dollars from our businesses,
right from under everyone’s noses!How did he do this?
All will be revealed.
I’ve often told folks that they can only
truly comprehend and protect themselves from the duplicity of the ‘father’s
rights’ movement devotees, and understand my specific misadventure within
it, if they examine the paper trail with a copy of Lewis Carroll’s “Alice
Through The Looking-Glass” right within their grasp.The “father’s rights movement”
is a topsy-turvy, upside-down, inside-out and backwards world, a distortion
of essential realities and the random creation of alternate realities,
in which left is right and right is wrong and wrong is a necessary means
to the ‘right’ end.In this anti-female world of “father’s
rights,” a woman’s assertiveness is an obsessive need for dominance
and control; a mother’s nurturing love is unhealthy dependence and pathological
bonding; a father’s cold years of absence and emotional abuse are a noble
endeavor to teach children independence.A business partner’s 18 years of hard
work and sacrifice are transformed into a simple, selfish, manipulative
gold-digging exercise, and the FR’s systematic, casual, pre-emptive destruction
of his spouse’s hard-won personal and professional reputation becomes a
justifiable act of self-defense against an unpredictable, vindictive ‘crazy’
woman determined to destroy the father’s life-work.Such a complex strategy of reinvention
and historical revisionism takes time and money. So it’s important, the
FR militants tell their minions, to CONTROL THE MONEY as well as the FLOW
OF INFORMATION.You must, these FR operators admonish
repeatedly, PLAN AHEAD, FILE FIRST with gusto, and file as often as necessary.
And keep her scrambling for money, sputtering in outrage, and invariably,
on the defensive.‘Plan ahead,’ the FR sites advise. Translation:
ambush your spouse and children, and hit them hard enough in the first
round to knock them dead out of contention. Ugly? Yes. Cold-blooded? You
betcha!But such a plan is crucial for physically
and emotionally absent men whose spouses are not only excellent mothers
but also who claim 50% of the parties’ assets — and they may very well
be significant assets — not by virtue of marriage, but by virtue of the
woman’s own hard work in creating those assets and building the business.All that history must be revised. All
the past must be overwritten. And most importantly, the assets which would
surely be divided with the mother, and equally bad, accounted in the calculations
for the husband’s contribution to child support, must gradually, unavoidably,
seem to diminish and appear to DISappear.That uppity spouse must never have access
to the resources she will inevitably, ultimately use to unravel and rewind
in public the FR advocate’s tale of fraud, deceit and duplicity.IV. Rapists in the Den of Thieves
As we are seeing, advocates of the “father’s
rights” movement, such as my soon-to-be-ex-husband, often find themselves
saddled with uppity, inconvenient spouses such as myself:Women who, during the marriage, do far
more than their “fair share” with regard to both family and finances,
without comment or complaint.Women who had full, satisfying lives before
their marriage and are destined to have full, satisfying lives when the
marriage is over.Women who take their responsibilities
seriously — and who assert the corresponding rights that they’ve earned
by dint of having fulfilled and fulfilled well — those responsibilities,
be they financial or familial.When faced with the prospect of parting
from such women, men such as my husband and his cronies in the FR movement,
whose ‘responsibility’ has been primarily to themselves, and whose interests
are primarily money, power and control, and whose family links are historically
characterized by remoteness and abdication of responsibility, must face
an awful truth:Divorcing men — even those who have been
allowed to control their spouses’ assets throughout marriage — must relinquish
their control of her assets in order to accomplish a fair and equitable
distribution Â? unless he can demonstrate that the assets were either
his in the first place, and oh dear, they’ve been unavoidably depleted.
And oh yes, that depletion is HER fault.
She MADE me do it; that over-controlling **** FORCED me to file 56 motions
against her and engage in this litigation because? well, fill in the blank.
Their excuses are limited only by their imaginations. And when their imaginations
are limited, they have thousands of pals on the “father’s rights”
websites and in local organizations to “share” ideas with them.But that awful truth about loss of control
goes down very hard on these men, and that’s what attracts them to the
glittering promise imbedded in “father’s rights.” Is there any
better way to look like a good guy than to claim to be ‘forced’ to diminish
your assets (and hers) in a selfless struggle to rescue your children from
an evil aggressive mother? How courageous! What a noble guy!Think about it. Women of substance and
assertiveness are all too frequently tagged, STILL, in our culture as aggressive,
domineering and controlling. Men in the FR movement, often married to women
of substance, use the Looking Glass strategy to crush their spouses, often
in anticipation of divorce.The spouses, of course, are not initially
clued in. Subterfuge is a critical element of the Looking Glass strategy.
As we’ve seen, these men don’t often EVER come clean about their REAL agendas.
Lie, lie, lie, deny, deny, deny.And as we’ve seen, the “father’s
rights movement” has been masterful in its manipulation of its image,
and by extension, in the image of its members. They are not “deadbeat
dads,” oh no, they are, they say, “dead-bolted dads,” shut
out of their children’s lives by vindictive women.They are the victims, they say, over and
over. And that is simply not so.My husband learned from his mentors in
the “father’s rights” movement exactly how to use his own children
and the Family Court system to hold the knife to my neck while he continued
his vicious assault on me.V. “Are you a WEAK man, Mr. Rxxxd?”
A side-trip of sorts, but relevant to
the balance of power that the “father’s rights” militants seek
to shift their way in the sniper-fire they employ before the “divorce
war” actually begins at Trial.One of the early difficulties my 2bx encountered
— a wee snag in the fabric of his well-woven strategy — occurred during
the initial hearing for temporary custody and support. This was not before
a judge, but a lay person referee, in a courtroom.On Day One, my 2bx described in appallingly
convincing detail (to my total and complete shock — because every word
was a total and complete fabrication) to an apparently very sympathetic
referee the following: how he’d been bullied by me for a decade, never
allowed to make decisions, never allowed to have the kids alone or drive
them to school, never allowed to pay the household bills, never allowed
to maintain the house and property.His point was intending to prove that
my over-controlling, domineering obsessiveness was terrible for the minor
child and she must be removed from my care IMMEDIATELY if not sooner. Oh
yes, he was ready: yes, the children were not in any trouble and the elder
daughter was successful in high school and was enrolled in the premier
Catholic women’s college in the country?. but the tragic truth (he looked
up at the referee with wide eyes) is that these poor children were terrified
of me and THAT explained their well-behaved manner and their successes?
they didn’t DARE cross their mother.I believe he used the words “swift
and terrible retribution” to describe what these children allegedly
“knew” would happen to them if they fell out of line.He was doing fine on the witness stand,
lying under oath like an experienced perjurer (perhaps he is!) and even
obviously enjoying his victimhood, until my attorney, reeled him in with
—“You know, Mr.Rxxx, you’ve described
yourself to this court as having suffered all these things at the hands
of your wife, and your children, too ? and you never did anything about
it til now? You’ve described yourself as a very weak man, Mr. Rxxx. Are
you a very weak man?”My 2bx’s face literally froze. This was
unexpected and, worse, a public insult. He did not know how to answer.
It was a joy, after months of ambush and uncertainty and terror on my part
alone, finally to behold a crack in that smooth, well-oiled “fatherly”
veneer.Through my tears, I quite nearly laughed
out loud. The spell this man had woven in that Courtroom was broken, as
the referee and court personnel pondered?. hmmmm?It was the only genuinely good moment
I would have in Court for quite a long while, but if you’ve ever had to
deal with a man totally consumed with his own self-image of power, dominance
and total control? then you can image how deeply I cherish it!VI. Arming Men for the Brutal ‘Divorce
Wars’There’s a very logical reason that “certain
kinds of women” are especially attractive targets of the militant
abusers and users in the FR movement. And don’t be misled into the fantasy
that the abuse and psychological trauma inflicted on the spouse and her
children is “incidental” to divorce, custody and business dissolution
litigation.Abuse, trauma, conflict, chaos, imposed
poverty — these are weapons that are in fact the entire POINT of the FR’s
litigational strategy.The men who run and operate the FR sites
and handle the FR lobby contacts in Washington DC and set up the FR groups
as 501( c ) (3) tax-exempt organizations and prepare their minions for
what they call “the divorce wars” are intelligent, articulate,
educated, savvy and largely, unscrupulous men.They have likely been married to intelligent,
articulate, accomplished, educated women. By nature of their associations
with the FR movement, the men involved in the conflict are fathers and
the women may be businesswomen and professionals, but they are also mothers.And there’s the rub for these FR militants.
An intelligent, accomplished woman isn’t typically going to allow herself
to be beaten, raped, robbed — of her assets AND her children — and left
for dead without a spirited defense. A spirited defense requires money
and time and a clear head.The spouse and mother MUST be either crushed
at the onset, or worn down emotionally and financially, kept without money,
without security, without a way out — without the spirit part of her spirited
defense — until she begs to surrender, by constant, continual demoralization.To accomplish that, these FR militants
require — absolutely require — a lengthy, destructive Court battle of
some kind in order to indefinitely delay any discussion of, or investigation
into, assets, financial dealings, or their own poor past as a parent.A lengthy, much-investigated child custody
battle snarled up in an overburdened Court system, gives them the time
they need to not only re-invent their histories, and those of their families,
but also, most importantly, to move, hide, invest and offload their assets.
A custody battle is tailor-made for these
men. I have seen and heard it many times on FR sites:“Given the choice between fighting
for the child and fighting for her property rights, the mother will nearly
always go for the child first. The child will be the most powerful weapon
you have in ‘convincing’ your wife that her concept of ‘fair distribution
of assets’ needs to be revisited.”Go for custody, whether you want it or
not, the FR operators tell their minions. Learn about your child, if you
don’t know your child. Look like you care very deeply for the children
and keep the Court focused on your negative depiction of the mother-child
relationship.While that’s going on, and it can be dragged
out for YEARS, no one is looking at the absent, unavailable father! In
fact, they EXPECT that his assets will be depleted by this terrible struggle.
Even if he loses, he never wanted or expected to ‘win’ custody, so the
delay is a win-win for the ‘poor, victim dad.’Here’s how one counselor euphemistically
couches the answer to the critical question for the uninvolved father seeking
custody: when to file? Answer: Give yourself enough time to reinvent history.
Here’s a quote from one of the sites:“If you want (insert: your spouse
to have to fight for) primary custody, it is possible that a delay could
provide a period of time when you are aware of what lies around the corner
while your wife is not. This waiting period may afford you an opportunity
to solidify your position as the primary nurturer, as well as to gather
information and evidence.”‘Gather information and evidence’ is a
euphemism for concoct and ‘document’ enough stories, incidents, events,
distortions, ad nauseum, so that when you do get to Court — and as Plaintiff,
FR-advocate, you ‘go first’ — your stories will appear credible.As in so many rape situations, these psychological,
financial and emotional rapists cowering behind the shield of the “father’s
rights movement” concoct scenarios in which they can blame their victims.
Having shifted the focus to the woman and her alleged transgressions —
perjury is nothing to these men — these FR militants are able to play
themselves as the victim the entire time they engage in vicious assault.As the above excerpt strongly implies,
“solidifying” the absent dad’s “position as the primary
nurturer” recognizes that in fact, the men who resort to the FR tactics
are not and have not been the child’s primary nurturer.Another FR site points out that the devious
dad will need to build “a history of sharing of duties between two
parents, or a very close bond between a dad and a child, which can be maintained
only by a co-parenting arrangement.”None of the history has to be true, or
real, or genuine, the FR advocates say in their chatrooms and message boards.
It simply must APPEAR to be so for the benefit and duration of the litigation.This is a key element of the gas-lighting
or crazy-making strategy inflicted on the woman. The FR militant first
steals his spouse’s life and livelihood, and then makes certain that she’s
aware he is rubbing her proverbial nose in it.It isn’t accidental and it isn’t incidental
to divorce, custody or even business dissolution. It’s deliberate, cold-blooded
and — as the FR operators will explain — absolutely necessary.That’s such a key point, as we will see?
VII. Domestic Terrorism: Stalking a
Wounded VictimAt the onset of this case, for which my
husband initiated litigation in August 1999, I had the extreme misfortune
and apparently unforgivable bad luck to be both an excellent mother and
an accomplished professional, a 50% owner in a flourishing business that
I helped found with my husband — long before he was my husband — 18 years
ago.I also had just endured two full years
of absolutely crushing personal grief and family tragedy. Literally “just”
endured. The day he advised me of what was afoot, was the first day I’d
drawn a breath not fraught with tears in months and months.So one of the truly horrifying aspects
of this case, for me, has been having to come to grips with the fact that
my husband is, and probably has been for some time, an amoral person without
normal human feelings. He deliberately essentially stalked me and the kids,
psychologically, for months and months, and I never recognized that for
what it was until it was far too late to do anything about it.The horrible truth is that my own husband
watched and waited during my greatest period of personal crisis, and when
he guessed that I would be at my absolute weakest and most vulnerable point,
he STRUCK with a massive effort to take my child from me — a child he
could not be bothered with for the first 11 years of her life — without
even the benefit of a heated discussion, let alone a Court hearing.One more loss, he was guessing, I could
not endure. This evil man, to whom I’d been married 12 years, was literally
gambling that I would be wiped out emotionally from simply the threat of
such a loss.Rewind?..
My much-loved and great-guy father was
very ill for the last half of 1997, just a week after we discovered that
my brother’s young wife had stage 4 cancer. My brother was coping with
his own grief and that of his four children — 14, 11, 4 and six months.
My family, always very close, was in total and complete crisis.My father went into the hospital for a
heart catheterization and just never recovered. A month later he was diagnosed
with stomch cancer, so they operated. Then more heart troubles … his
diabetes kicked in, and eventually in February 1998, they had to amputate
his leg. He passed away in April 1998 and we were crushed.My sister-in-law had surgery to no avail,
and they sent her home in August 1997, giving her six months to live.These were two terrible catastrophes from
which my siblings and children did not know how we might ever recover.
My husabnd, as always, was barely around, emotionally unavailable, as they
say …The same year, 1997, my eldest daughter
graduated from high school and was trying to prepare for college in the
midst of these crises. My youngest, an ADHD high-maintenance child, was
struggling mightily and desperately unhappy in school. I had been working
at home part-time for two years, after 15 years of fulltime at half-pay
in order to “build a base of retained earnings” for the business.So in late 1997, I backed off the business
and attended to family matters.This of course, is characterized in Court
papers as abandoning the business without explanation or permission. The
date is alternately posed as 1993, 1994 or 1995. In one set of false papers,
he even claims I “walked away” in 1995 but he kept me on the
payroll until 1997.That is all, of course, a deliberae strategy
to convince the judge I’m not entitled to 50% of the business assets? but
that’s an entirely ‘nother story.My husband’s stalking and disingenuous
probing of my emotional state was entirely opportunistic and characteristic
of the bloodlessly cold methodical win-at-all-costs strategies exhorted
by the FR groups. I still shudder to think what would have happened had
I been not such a strong person.As far as the business went, my husband
had always handled the business end, a task he enthusiastically embraced.As a writer and right-brained thinker,
I managed the creative end and developed a specialty in economic development
and community revitalization. At home and in parenting matters, there was
no option. I was “it.” There was no discussion and no choice.
He was neither interested nor inclined.The single time in eight years that he
took our daughter to school, she was in third grade — and he took her
to the wrong school. An accident? Or simply making sure he NEVER had to
do that task again?After a dozen years of marriage, I simply
did not realize that uppity wives, such as myself, who aspire to a saner
balance between family life and workplace, at a time of devastating personal
crisis, are not only unentitled to understanding and compassionÂ?but
are unwittingly wandering dead-center into the crosshairs of the fledgling
but vicious “father’s rights” movement.I never once considered that the upshot
of my decision to take a much-deserved break from the business (no vacuum
was created, regardless; we had ample, experienced staff) to attend to
family matters was simply the creation of a financial opportunity for my
husband and his legal and accounting team.He never let on, not for one single moment.
THAT still amazes me, these four years later.VIII: The Financial Desecration Begins
Another key “father’s rights”
admonishment to their minions: CONTROL the MONEY.I spoke in Article VI of the ‘initial’
Court hearing that was held in January 2000. Given what’s been debated
in the comments section on the family court, I do use the term ‘initial’
advisedly, since several lawsuits were filed simultaneously against me
in August 1999. Fending off the inevitable ‘initial’ hearing is also a
core element of the “father’s rights” strangulation and rape
strategy, and my husband played it like a dream, conning everyone along
the way that, indeed, he was “trying” to stay out of Court “for
the child’s sake.”By the time the hearing was held, the
financial desecration was quite nearly complete. I had $61 to my name,
a car in repossession, property taxes unpaid, my phone disconnected, internet
service cancelled, credit card bills maxed out and overdue, and months
of unpaid college tuition and board.My own assets had been seized and held
by my husband for nearly SEVEN months, courtesy of a restraining order
that was basically superfluous, since he had already moved more than $500,000
and made $350,000 more just vanish into accounting adjustments, a full
two months before he’d filed. He simply proceeded as though his reinvention
of me as a gold-digging, self-indulgent, malicious nitwit was already reality,
as though everything was rightfully only his, and he needed to “protect”
it from me.He never once gave a moment’s thought
to what his manipulations were doing to the kids. I told him clearly, “whenever
you lob a bomb at me, you hit the kids.” But to no avail. He simply
did not care.After all, as he explained to the Court,
he had to keep the business going (hired 14 new people between august 1999
and May 2000) and all those people to keep employed, and this greedy woman
will be happy to put the business on the skids to feed her vindictiveness!
In fact, your honor, I believe she’s trying to destroy this business. And
she won;t let me see my poor daughter! Please give me a restraining order
to keep her off the premises (and out of the financials and away from her
own work-product)Â? and turn that child over to me, your honor. You
can trust me…”He had surreptitiously called our bank
in JUNE 1999 and had the monthly automatic deposits into our bank account
stopped. The deposits, but NOT the withdrawals, clever man. But then an
unexpected bump in his smooth-sailing path: my sister-in-law, who had hung
on for almost two years, succumbed in July 1999.In an obvious attempt to not be caught
out too early, my husband hand-deposited $2,300 into our household account
in mid-July. Tat was roughly half of what the automatic deposits had been
for years.By the time he filed in August 1999, there
was virtually nothing left but the money set aside in a separate account
for that year’s college tuition for my elder daughter. And in September,
the automatic withdrawals kicked in, and of course, there was nothing there
to cover them.He wrote to the Court, filed motions against
me, “outraged,” that I’d been “trying to ruin his credit
by bouncing hundreds of dollars of checks all over town! Punish this irresponsible,
crazy woman, your honor, and did I mention she’s also trying to destroy
the business and doing irreparable harm to this poor child?”There is absolutely no way to stay out
of the way of that kind of strategy.Worse, all of my professional work-product,
my resume, client lists, billing records, writing samples, booklets, brochures,
plans and programs I’d developed and produced over the course of 18 years
were indeed in the office and out of my reach. He had earlier taken my
printer from home to the office “to have it repaired.” Ha.Planning ahead, he of course had had the
locks changed on our office building just days after he filed. (That small
fact turned out to be a major factor in his undoing.) When I drove up to
the office that Saturday morning (no one about), I found my key no longer
worked. I returned home, where he was still allegedly living, and asked
him for a key. He of course refused and alluded to the fact that I’d ‘made
threats.’I then asked if this meant he would be
releasing me from the non-compete clause in my employment contract. Looking
at me as though I’d suddenly lost my mind, he asked, “Why would you
think that? Of course not.”Me: “Obviously, if you’re not going
to have the money deposited, I will have to work to pay the bills.”Him: “You can work. No one is stopping
you.”Problem: The minute I were to take any
job doing what I do professionally, I am in violation of my non-compete
clause, and the contract says I then forfeit my interest in the business.
Such an unreasonable clause will likely never stand Court scrutiny, but
given my circumstances, and having no funds and only debts, I did not care
to be fighting yet ANOTHER lawsuit in another Court somewhere.For the record, his strategy worked: my
assets have still not been released to me. My husband was, and remains,
in sole control of the rents and income from the building we co-own, of
the income, dividend, interest and profits of the businesses we own.And in a clever coup, he hit me in March
2000 with a K-1 advising the IRS that my share of the business profits
the previous year was $161,000. I’d never seen a single penny. The IRS
would like my $55,000, please. And of course, that much reported income
guaranteed that I’d see NO financial aid for my daughter in college.I was not aware at the time of the ‘father’s
rights’ movement or their advice to him in this regard. Nor was I aware
that he had also been advised to pre-emptively alert the police and the
Court that I had ‘made threats’ not only against the property, but also,
he claimed in total and complete fabrication, against the poor terrified
(he said, and that was a mistake that came back to haunt him) employees!
That, he explained, ‘forced’ him to change the locks.The only ‘reasonable’ thing to did when
faced with this crazy, unstable woman, right?I could sense it in my bones: he’s setting
me up for what he hopes will be a self-fulfilling prophesy. And he was
setting me up in order to help him obtain a restraining order against me,
which would then be further “proof” of my deteriorating mental
condition. I suppose I was lucky not to have been arrested that morning!
This is one of the portions of the bill that I have concerns with – mother is named specifically: The other portions give judges too much power allowing them to make rulings without following the requirements of the federal government for the state to receive funding. Hence the Kansas tax payer pays for it.
SENATE BILL No. 38—page 8 [PDF] Supp Note on SB 38 Approved by Governor on Thursday, 07 April 2011
(C) Neither parent shall be considered to have a vested interest in the custody or residency of any child as against the other parent, regardless of the age of the child, and there shall be no presumption that it is in the best interests of any infant or young child to give custody or residency to the mother.
The Kansas Constitution states:
Article 15.–MISCELLANEOUS
§ 6: Rights of women. The legislature shall provide for the protection of the rights of women, in acquiring and possessing property, real, personal and mixed, separate and apart from the husband; and shall also provide for their equal rights in the possession of their children.
How could a parent who has a history of documented physical or sexual abuse to a child possibly gain custody?
Easy; it’s profitable for (GAL’s Psychs, FOC’s) to legally ‘traffic’ children via family court.
With the Casey Anthony verdict coming down last week, it makes one start to wonder about our family courts in Florida? Is it just Florida, or across the Nation? Today, I received a note from Linda Marie Sacks, a mother in Ormond Beach, Florida, whom you may have read about in one of my earlier Blogs. Well, guess what? The psychologist in her case, Dr. Deborah Day, actually provided false and misleading information to the Courts. In her testimony, Dr. Day stated, “It is this examiner’s opinion that child abuse has not been perpetuated in this case.” In fact, Dr. Day “dismissed all evidence of child abuse, and then thwarted the investigation by the police department and the Department of Children and Family.” In other words, Dr. Day violated, Linda Marie’s constitutional rights to present evidence in hopes of protecting her children. By coincidence, Dr. Day was also working on the Casey Anthony case. Isn’t it strange that in both cases, the children were the ones who “lost,” while the ones who have the most money to pay the psychologists for their “favorable” testimony end up “winning?”
I am afraid that my case will be following these same avenues. My former husband’s counsel selected psychologist, Dr. Debra Carter, to conduct a custody evaluation to the tune of over $30,000 which he apparently is more than happy to pay. When I had concerns, I was branded as uncooperative. When I called to cancel an appointment because my 12-year old was nauseous and could not travel over two hours to the psychologist’s office, I was again told I was uncooperative, and opposing counsel asked I be held in contempt of court, which Judge Brodie granted.
So, I was a “bad parent” because I took my child to her regular doctor when she was ill, and did not attend Dr. Carter’s appointment and subject the child to a psychiatric testing when she couldn’t even eat or stand up? On top of this, Dr. Carter made a report to Department of Children and Family after interviewing my 17-year old with unfounded allegations. Apparently, Dr. Carter only wanted to talk about my daughter’s step-father, and didn’t say anything about her father and the documented abuse. Rather, Dr. Carter wanted to shift the “blame” to my current husband rather than focusing on the pending child abuse charges of Mr. Parrish. Shouldn’t there be regulations regarding how these “professionals” are allowed to interview our children? It is disgrace, and what is this teaching our children? Do our children grow up thinking that “abuse” is somehow justified and acceptable? These “professionals” who are supposed to be protecting our children are masking over the abuse, and rather sending the message that it is fine, shifting the blame, and they should be accepting and not question. What type of relationships will these children believe is normal? Something must change.
A drunk father allowed his 8 year-old son to drive his pick-up truck on a southeast Louisiana highway on Saturday while he slept, until patrol officers pulled over the boy, police said
The boy was driving the Chevrolet truck on Interstate 12 near the town of Holden, with his father in the passenger seat and his 4 year-old sister in the back seat, Louisiana State Police said in a statement.
A passing motorist noticed the pick-up truck was being driven erratically and called police.
When Louisiana state troopers pulled over the truck in Livingston Parish, they found the 8 year-old boy behind the wheel and interviewed the father, 28 year-old Billy Joe Madden of Hattiesburg, Mississippi, police said.
Police said they determined Madden was drunk and that he had been sleeping while his son drove the vehicle, en-route to Dallas, Texas.
Madden was arrested and booked into jail on two counts of child desertion, parent allowing a minor to drive, open container and two counts of no child restraint and no seatbelt.
Madden remains in jail at Livingston Parish Detention Center in lieu of $1,474 bail, said sheriff’s deputy Dustin Sanders at the facility.
Both of Madden’s children were turned over to child welfare authorities and were awaiting the arrival of a family member who could take custody of them, police said.
(Reporting by Kathy Finn; Writing by Alex Dobuzinskis; Editing by Tim Gaynor)
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Everyday we all hear about or read about divorcing couples fighting over who gets the kids. Fighting over their own children like they are some sort of property to be traded back and forth. There are many people that believe ALL mothers should always have custody with very little to no visitation for fathers; and likewise there are those out there that believe the opposite, ALL fathers should get custody and mothers should get little to no visitation.
Personally I don’t see how so many people can see this issue in such black and white terms. Not ALL mothers are good parents and not ALL fathers are good parents. For the most part the daily news will show us that most child abuse and child murders are committed by fathers, and yes, occasionally by mothers. This still doesn’t prove that ALL fathers are bad or good or that ALL mothers are bad or good.
In the last few years I have learned more about the Father’s Rights Movement, and I can say that I’m more than a little shocked at what I’ve learned. The Father’s Rights Advocates would have everyone believe that they are just concerned for fathers as a whole having shared or joint custody. They would have us believe that their number one concern is actually the children in divorces and custody cases. On the surface if one doesn’t dig too much that sounds wonderful.
However, when looked at further it is easily seen what the real agenda is for the Father’s Rights Movement. The further abuse and victimization of their ex-wives and children. Before I go any further here, I’d like to point out that I fully believe that good fathers have
sought out the assistance of the Father’s Rights Movement and one of two things happens… they either leave, frustrated and still alone in their plight OR they become enmeshed in the bitterness which abounds.
What I see out of Father’s Rights Advocates around the internet appears to be mostly just a bunch of men (and a few women that will do anything to get the attention or have a little power for themselves) who have been abusive in one way or another to the mother of their children and now feel that comfy rug of power and control being ripped from under their feet.
What better way to continue to abuse and control your victim when they walk away than to take possession of their children?
One main reason that I’ve formed the opinion that I have of the Father’s Rights Movement is because only abusers would look at the news we see of fathers murdering and abusing their kids and deny that it happens, or make excuses for it happening. The strict adherence to the ‘ALL fathers should have custody’ line that they feed everyone is the basis of my opinion that the majority of those in the movement are abusers grasping at keeping the power and control they had.
Here is an example, mind you… this is only one search, but there are many like this.
VISITOR ANALYSIS
Referrer
http://www.google.com/m?q=do wifes come back after losing custody?&start=20&sa=NSearch Engine Phrase
do wifes come back after losing custody?Search Engine Name
Search Engine Host
http://www.google.comHost Name
74-82-64-35.rdns.blackberry.netIP Address
74.82.64.35 [Label IP Address]Country
United StatesWhy would someone look for this? Other than because they are contemplating attempting to gain custody through the Family Court just to get their ex-wife back under their power. This doesn’t sound like a man who loves his kids and wants the best for them, this sounds like a man who loves control and will use whatever means available to him to maintain or re-gain his power and control.
I never meant for this to be this long, so I will wrap this up by saying… not ALL men should have access to their children regardless of what the FR Advocates say. Likewise, I can admit that not ALL women that give birth are the best parent choice either. The natural equipment that we are born with which enables us to create life does NOT dictate how a person will be as a parent.
Since it is obvious that I have much more to say about this… there will be other posts on this subject.
She was supposed to be in Court at 9 am on Monday involving custody of her 9 month old daughter.
Amber Elkins Last Seen Sunday; Vehicle Found Abandoned Tuesday
Read more at www.click2houston.com
Investigators said Elkins was the victim of foul play and has not been located.
Detectives said Elkins’ vehicle, a dark green 2004 Chevrolet Trailblazer with Georgia license plates, was found abandoned in a vacant business parking lot in the 13900 block of Homestead Road, just north of Greens Bayou, about 2:45 p.m. Tuesday.
The front passenger window was broken out and a substantial amount of blood was found inside the vehicle, investigators said.
Elkins’ mother, Shani Kilpatrick, said her daughter would never go a day without letting someone know where she was. Kilpatrick said her phone rang at 3:30 a.m. Sunday, but she missed the call because she was sleeping. When she woke up later that morning, she realized it was her daughter, so she called her back.
“I called her back and a guy answered. I asked where Amber was, and he hung up,” said Kilpatrick. “She would only call me at 3:30 in the morning if something was wrong. That’s why I know something was wrong.”
Kilpatrick also said Elkins was due in court on Monday for a custody hearing regarding her 9-month-old daughter, who is staying with relatives.
“I don’t think it looks good,” Kilpatrick said. “I’m trying to keep the faith. I don’t want to say that she’s gone. I just know that she can’t call me.”
Frank Ferrata is the father of Elkins’ daughter, Ava. He said it’s heartbreaking because the baby is too young to understand what’s going on.
“Ava says ‘Mama’ all the time, and it breaks my heart,” he said.
Ferrata said he and Elkins were living in Midway, Texas, together, but recently she moved back to the Houston area. He called her a kind, loving person and said they just want to know what happened to her.
Elkins’ father, Mike Elkins, flew in Friday night from Atlanta. He said he felt helpless being so far away and wanted to come to Texas to help search for his daughter. But he admitted the evidence doesn’t look good, and now the family is fearing the worst.
“I feel in my heart that my daughter’s gone. I’ve accepted that. I just want to find her,” said Mike Elkins. “My daughter had a heart of gold. She would do anything for anybody.”
About 70 volunteers scoured more than 150 acres looking for signs of Amber Elkins.
“We’re not going to sugarcoat anything. This looks bad,” Texas EquuSearch Founder Tim Miller said. “We’re going to hold on to that tiny miracle, but the reality is we’ve got a big problem here. We got a 20-year-old that’s got to be found.”
Amber Elkins is white, 5 feet 8 inches to 5 feet 9 inches tall with black hair and brown eyes. She has two stars tattooed on her wrist and the word “ACE” tattooed on an ankle.
Anyone with information regarding Amber Elkins’ disappearance is asked to call the HCSO Homicide Unit at 713-967-5810, or Crime Stoppers at 713-222-TIPS.
Clark is being held at the Harris County jail.
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